We reached out to some wed­ding plan­ners, and friends of Gen­er­a­tion Tux, to get their advice on how cou­ples can keep plan­ning for their wed­ding dur­ing an uncer­tain time. In our third Q&A, we talked to Heather Fier; founder of The Wed­ding Hack­er in San Diego, CA.


What are some ways cou­ples can con­tin­ue plan­ning dur­ing this time?

Pour your­self a drink, snug­gle up with your love on the couch, and dive into these aspects of your wed­ding plans:

1) Review and tight­en up your wed­ding bud­get

There is too much uncer­tain­ty in the world to lay­out deposits and make large finan­cial deci­sions, but you can still make progress toward your dream day. If your finan­cial sit­u­a­tion has changed due to the cri­sis, this step isn’t nego­tiable… you real­ly need to make adjust­ments to your wed­ding plans. That said, there are many ways to stretch a wed­ding bud­get, so don’t pan­ic. The key to plan­ning on a lean­er bud­get is focus­ing on your pri­or­i­ties. While math and bud­gets may not sound like the sex­i­est date night, I promise that fac­ing the real num­bers and devel­op­ing a real­is­tic plan will make you feel bet­ter. 

Here is an overview of how to cre­ate a wed­ding bud­get that you can actu­al­ly stick to. 

Sort out the real num­bers, so you can move for­ward con­fi­dent­ly.

2) Devel­op your DIY skills 

With wed­ding plan­ning the options on the table often take an invest­ment of mon­ey or time. Well, we all have a lit­tle more time in our day at the moment, so this is a great time to build up to devel­op those craft­ing skills you’ve been neglect­ing. There are so many online cours­es and tuto­ri­als for every­thing from flo­rals, cal­lig­ra­phy, to cre­at­ing bal­loon arch­es. Flex that cre­ativ­i­ty and have some fun. Whether you decide to work on the graph­ic design for escort cards or make home­made mar­malades as wed­ding favors, these DIY projects will often save a bun­dle and will def­i­nite­ly pro­vide for some quar­an­tine enter­tain­ment.

3) Pre­pare for a suc­cess­ful mar­riage

Think beyond the wed­ding day and take some time to pre­pare for mar­ried life. The rela­tion­ship and per­son­al finance experts at this vir­tu­al wed­ding expo dis­cuss how to strength­en your rela­tion­ship, out­line your five-year plan togeth­er, and pre­pare for merg­ing your finances. You can join the Expo for FREE and learn from our amaz­ing line­up of experts from your couch. 

Watch the social media account of your favorite thought lead­ers as many folks are rolling out “chal­lenges” and “vir­tu­al sum­mits” to help empow­er cou­ples at this time.

4) Lever­age the web build out your wed­ding day style

You do not need to leave the house to nail your wed­ding day style. I wrote two arti­cles to help you score an amaz­ing and afford­able wed­ding gown online. 

  1. The process
  2. The online resources 

And let’s not for­get the gents… You can keep the momen­tum going from home with amaz­ing resources like Gen­er­a­tion Tux. You can explore the styles, fab­rics and fit from the safe­ty of your home by order­ing swatch­es or a suit for a free home try-on.

How do you keep the wed­ding par­ty engaged and keep­ing their wed­ding in their plans?

Just because we’re all social dis­tanc­ing doesn’t mean we need to be social­ly iso­lat­ed. Keep com­mu­ni­cat­ing with your wed­ding VIPs. My clients have been hold­ing vir­tu­al hap­py hours on Zoom, keep­ing com­mu­ni­ca­tion flow­ing via Slack, and the laughs rolling with House­p­a­r­tyYou can keep momen­tum going and friend­ship strong with all these mod­ern tools. Wor­ried about keep­ing your wed­ding par­ty focused on their to-do list? I’m a big fan of Asana where you can assign out tasks with due dates. Gen­er­a­tion Tux makes man­ag­ing the suits sim­ple with their online plat­form, so your crew can get their look locked in with­out leav­ing the house.

The cou­ple has made the deci­sion to post­pone, what cre­ative ways are they noti­fy­ing guests and wed­ding par­ty of the change?

Com­mu­ni­cate clear­ly and prompt­ly… dig­i­tal is best for speed & cost-effec­tive­ness. The wed­ding indus­try is step­ping up here and many cal­lig­ra­phers and graph­ic design­ers are offer­ing free post­pone­ment tem­plates. Many online resources are offer­ing free re-print­ing of invi­ta­tions. In this unprece­dent­ed time, there aren’t “rules” to fol­low, so email, text, Face­book Mes­sen­ger, or Insta­gram all work well to spread the word to your guests. It can be emo­tion­al­ly drain­ing on the cou­ple to field all the ques­tions from guests and  to have the same con­ver­sa­tion dozens of times. Because of this, I have been sug­gest­ing to my cou­ples that they ask their wed­ding VIPs to help with a “phone tree” to dis­cuss details or note a spe­cif­ic point of con­tact or your wed­ding web­site address to han­dle the fol­low up (FAQs and updates) on your behalf. Last­ly, it is total­ly okay to announce a post­pone­ment with­out a new date set in stone. Just keep an open dia­logue with your guests as new plans firm up.

What is one piece of advice you would give to a cou­ple read­ing this after mak­ing the deci­sion to post­pone?

Take your pow­er back. It is nat­ur­al to grieve the loss of the day you were plan­ning. Feel those feel­ings and then keep push­ing for­ward. Each cou­ple will process this in their own way, but you will start to feel bet­ter once you focus on build­ing excite­ment about the new plans. Stay­ing in that pow­er­less mode will not help you feel bet­ter and will keep you from mak­ing the most of the new wed­ding day you are plan­ning. Look for the ben­e­fits of this new date and allow your­self to be excit­ed about the new plan devel­op­ing. There is like­ly some sil­ver lin­ing if you look for it.


For more infor­ma­tion on how Gen­er­a­tion Tux is help­ing cou­ples plan dur­ing the COVID-19 sit­u­a­tion, click here.


Heather Fier — Founder of the Wed­ding Hack­er Club

Wed­ding Hack­er Club


IG: @weddinghackerclub

Here are a few of Heather’s favorite Gen­er­a­tion Tux images, see more inspi­ra­tion a the Gen­er­a­tion Tux gallery.


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