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6 Questions to Ask Before Choosing Your Groomsmen

Choos­ing the peo­ple who will make up your wed­ding par­ty is not always an easy task. After all, these will be the friends and fam­i­ly mem­bers who will not only be at your side on the wed­ding day, but through­out a large por­tion of the plan­ning process. That means select­ing your grooms­men (or gal) is about more than who looks great in a suit or tux or who knows how to tie a mean bowtie (although those things def­i­nite­ly help). So before you ask any­one to be one of your main peo­ple on the big day, answer these six sim­ple ques­tions.

 

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DO THEY MEAN SOMETHING TO YOU?

The goal here is to have peo­ple that are going to sup­port you not only dur­ing your engage­ment, but also through your mar­riage, says Lau­ra Mad­dox of Mag­no­lia Cel­e­brates. “You want them to be able to call you on your stuff while also being able to have a great time togeth­er,” she notes.
 

ARE YOU INCLUDING FAMILY MEMBERS?

While this is impor­tant for some, it may not be a good fit for every­one. But if you do decide to have mem­bers of your fam­i­ly in the par­ty, don’t for­get about the bride’s side, says Kevin Den­nis of Fan­ta­sy Sound Event Ser­vices. “For exam­ple, if your part­ner has a broth­er, it can be a thought­ful ges­ture to extend the invi­ta­tion to him for a spot as one of your grooms­men,” he explains.

 

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CAN YOU RELY ON THEM?

Den­nis also points out that your wed­ding par­ty will be there for set­up, coor­di­nat­ing tasks, and run­ning errands, so you’ll want to choose respon­si­ble friends and fam­i­ly that you can depend on to get the job done. An easy way to stay on top of the tux/suit rental process is Gen­er­a­tion Tux’s online sys­tem, which allows you to send them a link to the exact look to rent for the big day, and then keep track of everyone’s progress to make sure they’ll have their attire on time.

 

DO YOU FEEL OBLIGATED?

Heather Jones of Wente Vine­yards points out that you shouldn’t feel oblig­at­ed to enlist a grooms­man you don’t ful­ly get along with or trust to car­ry out the duties for your wed­ding day—even if that per­son is fam­i­ly. “They should be on board with what you want, rather than some­one that will try to dic­tate the deci­sions of wed­ding plan­ning. Set clear expec­ta­tions as ear­ly on as pos­si­ble,” she says.

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CAN THEY AFFORD IT?

Being in a wed­ding par­ty is a huge commitment—especially when it comes to mon­ey. Jones sug­gests think­ing about all of the trav­el costs, wed­ding fes­tiv­i­ties lead­ing up to the day-of, attire, and oth­er ele­ments so that your poten­tial grooms­men know what they’re sign­ing up for. Let them know that if they can’t swing it, you can find anoth­er role for them dur­ing the big day, such as serv­ing as an ush­er or read­ing a poem dur­ing the cer­e­mo­ny.

DO YOU WANT TO INCLUDE WOMEN?

Feel free to throw gen­der norms out the win­dow and invite any­one spe­cial in your life to stand on your side of the aisle with you. So if you have a sis­ter or a female BFF, you can of course include her in the grooms­men party—as a grooms­gal.

 

Once you have your wed­ding par­ty final­ized. make sure you all look your best. Start build­ing your per­fect suit or tux, set up your wed­ding par­ty and invite them to get their rental set up—we’ll take care of the rest.

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